Being slowed down for so long has forced me to examine what's really important in my life. The activities I do...the projects I'm involved in...even the people around me have fallen into a scale-from-one-to-ten-how-loyal-are-you-really.
This last round of surgeries, I have to say that I've been equally disappointed in some people who I thought would have been there for me, and happily surprised by others who have been here to help. There's family that I thought would have helped more, and acquaintances that have really gone out of their way to make me meals, or offer me rides. People are always surprising me...in good ways and bad. It's always a mystery.
Some activities that I have been involved in for a while seem less important to me now. I really cherish the time I have with my family...especially since I've had more bad days than good lately. On those good days, I want to spend it with the people that I love and cherish the most. I want happiness and easiness and no drama (which isn't always so easy with a teenage daughter!). So certain volunteer causes that I thought were dear to me, just seem so little now by comparison. I want to get things done and because I'm not feeling well most of the time, I don't want any extra drama or difficulty. I guess it took two surgeries to open my eyes to some things.
And so my priorities have changed. I've trimmed the fat, so to speak. With the people in my life as well as the things I'm willing to spend my time and energy on.
Have you ever had a clarifying moment like this? If you've had to “trim the fat”, what made the cut for you?
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